I don’t know how to write about this without offending anyone. The Uninvited guests; people whom you would choose not to add to your guest list, people who shouldn’t for any reason be invited at all in a wedding. I’ve been to a couple of weddings now, but before that, I only saw them in movies, I never really thought some people could be brazen enough to be considered as unwanted guests in a party. In the times I’ve attended weddings I’ve had my share of encounters with these guests.
My idea of weddings should be a happy, joyous and memorable moment in the couple’s lives. However, a percentage of these weddings end up simply being memorable, not for the beautiful cake or bride’s gown, not for the wonderful ceremony but because some weddings got ruined or could have been perfect if not for these people. Minor mishaps in weddings are unavoidable but the somewhat chaotic effect that these guests create are simply annoying.
The list is not in any ranking order:
1. Number one on the list are “THE GATE CRASHSERS”, as the term implies, these are people who didn’t get the invite at all. But I suppose to some people they are impervious to the idea of not being invited. As though being uninvited is unacceptable. In rural areas, inviting the entire neighborhood to a wedding is acceptable, there is even no need to spend on invitations because they will come whether invited or not, however, it is now becoming an accepted practice among people to limit their wedding guest list. It seems to me that this kind of behavior simply stems from the lack of manners. What goes on in the minds of these people truly escapes me.
2. CHILDREN/ KIDS; awwe why should they be uninvited. More and more couples are now considering or do not have kids on their guest list during the wedding. Let’s face it, weddings is an adult affair. Kids are cute but after the ceremony (sometimes even during the ceremony), they tend to be unruly. They are noisy and they ran all over the place. Can we actually control when or where kids will have a tantrum? Most parents allow their kids to run around the place as though it is a playground. Weddings are supposed to be intimate events, if you have a kid or kids running around, screaming, and crying can you still consider that intimate?. Among all the events in a person’s life this is the most celebrated. If you do happen to be invited to a wedding along with your kids, please control your kids.
Suggestion for couples: Create a separate place for the kids where they can play to their heart’s content.
3. The Family member who makes INAPPROPRIATE SPEECHES. Again, weddings are the most celebrated time in a couple’s life. Every couple wishes their wedding to be the best and most memorable one. Can you imagine your wedding being known for that family member who gave that really awkward sermon during your wedding?
To the guests: if your being asked to speak in a wedding please write it down first and have someone proofread it! It’s really no fun being at the center of that stage, with everyone looking at you for the slightest reaction while a family member tells everyone that your marriage was a mistake!
4. The uncle/aunt/ grandma who can’t handle his/ her liquor. there is nothing more embarrassing for a couple than to have their wedding ruined by a drunk relative or even a drunk friend.
5. Lastly, The family or friend who invites a PLUS ONE or more. First of all if you plan to do this, consult the couple first. Most couples nowadays indicate in their invites the number of people allowed for that invite, if yours says ONE, please honor that. Weddings cost money, each plate is paid for. After the wedding, you go back to your own lives full and content but the couple has yet to settle the bill. That’s right! you already ate for free, don’t be a free loader.
In this economy, it’s all about how much you can save in your wedding. Couples cannot afford to blow off their entire savings on their wedding. After all the festivities, the couple will also need money for a lot of stuff, like the honeymoon, the bills, the new home and the baby.
So why am I writing this, with the probability of running the risk of severing some relations I have? Well, for information and a wake-up call. Some of you will someday have your own wedding and some of you will again be invited to another wedding. Weddings cost a ton of money. Weddings don’t suddenly come to life through some magic dust. It’s all hard-earned money. If your planning to crash a wedding or you fall under the category of these uninvited guests, at least extend the common courtesy of giving the couple a gift, monetary is preferred. Be considerate of the people getting married.
Weddings is about the couple and the union of two families. If there’s anyone that ought to be invited it should be the direct family, the people who were supportive and ever-present during the relationship. If you don’t fall into any of these categories…Dude, that’s the reason why the invite never reached your mailbox!